What accounts for our reluctance to forgive? Probably a number of factors, but here I want to focus on the factor of self-respect. Any person （31）______fails to show sufficient respect for the person he has harmed. Implicit in the act of wrongdoing, then, is the claim that （32） ______. The Nazi soldier in The Sunflower helped to bum an entire village of Jews alive, and in doing so, （33） ______. He failed to recognize them as valuable human beings with a moral status equal to his own. （34） ______fail to respect them as valuable persons and as the bearers of basic human rights. They fail to respect their children’s feelings, （35） ______ . I think many of us believe that if we forgive an offender （36） ______, we are essentially agreeing with the claim that we do not deserve a full measure of respect. In effect, we are saying “That’s OK—（37） ______ . I’m not that important.” If this is the case, then our reluctance to forgive may be the result of a healthy desire to maintain our own self-respect. （38） ______, I believe that it need not lead to a refusal to forgive. In fact I believe that if we truly respect ourselves, （39） ______, and this process will lead to genuine forgiveness of the offender. If we attempt to forgive the offender before we do this work, our forgiveness may well be incompatible with our self-respect However, （40） ______, it will be fully appropriate for the self-respecting individual to forgive the offender, regardless of whether the offender repents and regardless of what he has done or suffered. （From Forgiveness and Self-respect） A. who forgives others easily B. once this process is complete C. who wrongfully harms another D. And parents who abuse their children E. Anyone who harms others very often F. it doesn't matter that you mistreated me G. the victim does not deserve a full measure of respect H. we will work through a process of responding to the wrong I. he failed to respect the intrinsic worth of the Jewish people J. and their profound need for a safe and supportive environment K.who is guilty of serious crimes against us （especially an unrepentant offender） L. Although the desire to maintain our self-respect is certainly important to honor____________
C
